When an idea spreads like a virus, be careful. It probably is.

The concept of Twin Flames currently sweeping through the spiritual community is not new. It is as old as Plato. However the interest in this concept seems to me more to be exploding than growing, meeting as it does our deepest needs for connection, for belonging, for intimacy and often, for a new paradigm into which people in difficult and complex relationships can pour their uncertainty and confusion.

Before I say anything else I have a disclosure. I am a twin. An identical twin in the biological context. Not a spiritual twin, a bona fide flesh and blood one and so of course, I will have a very different perspective to that of singletons.

All my life I have been amused, incredulous, and annoyed at how romanticised and misunderstood the concept of twins is!!!

‘Two of you!!! Which one are you? Can you read each other’s minds’ and on and on it goes!

I see in these questions a longing for intimacy, for merging that no physical twin would ever promote, not without a strong caveat: It is essential for all of us to recognise first, our sovereignty, our autonomy, our edges, before union with another can be wholesome. And so as I listen, read, study and contemplate the Twin Flame theology, I am cautious. From my work, I know too much about Narcissism (malignant self love) and codependence (malignant other love) not to stop and pay very careful attention to the language and energy of the Twin Flames discussion and notice the huge potential for confusing the two.

Another disclaimer: I choose not to ‘believe’ anything. When presented with an interesting concept like Twin flames I remain open, aware I can not possibly KNOW something I’ve never thought about. I am in a state of gathering and sifting information until such time as it shifts into either
something I truly resonate with and can now say I know or I dismiss all or parts of the idea.

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